Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity

May 21, 2017 Leave a Comment


One of my favourite writings by Chris Cade…

A while back there was a discussion on Facebook and a person replied with the following comment:

“If you don’t kill the ego, you’re nowhere. Healing isn’t a pleasure cruise. It’s all about the ego or his real name, Satan!”

His comment reminded me of a pitfall that many people get into on the path of spiritual transformation: demonizing the ego. It’s easy to do. After all, we know the ego is the source of our suffering. We know it causes us pain.

So why not kill it? 

Just get it out of our heads forever so we can be totally healed, whole, and live in peace?

Many spiritual paths seek to either transcend the ego or to annihilate it. And while this approach may have worked for the founders of those paths and some devout followers, my experience and observation is that typically this results in more pain and ego… not less.

What do I recommend?

Explore the possibility of accepting and loving the ego instead of trying to kill or annihilate it.

That seems counter intuitive to many. Why love and accept the very thing we want to be free from?

The thing is, as long as a person is trying to kill or annihilate the ego then that person is living in a perpetual state of rejection – which *is* the very ego that person is trying to annihilate. With this frame of mind, it actually becomes impossible to ever free one’s self from the trappings of the ego.

Therefore, if a person truly deeply wants to be free from the ego, the first step is to always fully accept it.

Granted, we don’t have to identify with the ego. We don’t have to do what it says. And we certainly don’t have to even believe it.

But we do have to accept it…

Because the alternative is a lot like this quote from George Carlin:

“Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity.”

Or phrased in our current context…

The wish to kill or annihilate the ego is to be completely identified with the ego.

It just doesn’t work because it creates a never ending circle of unresolvable contradictions. It uses the wrong energy to try and solve the perceived problem.

And this downward-spiral identification makes it impossible to ever experience lasting and meaningful freedom from the ego.


Meditation is a great place to start. So if you haven’t listened to your free “Effortless Quiet Mind” meditation by Chris Cade yet, then click the link below:
Listen To Your Free “Effortless Quiet Mind” Meditation

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