Archives for May 2017

Idealist? Or Realist? How do you view your world?

May 24, 2017 Leave a Comment

 

It has been an eternity, watching the newly repainted pool slowly fill up. I actually poured a few buckets of water into the pool today. I live much of the year in a private compound in Costa Rica. After a week of no swimming, I finally decided that 18 inches of depth was enough for a modified version of the Australian crawl.

Well, there’s a big smile on my face, but scrapes on my hands. Because the pool is only half full. And the metaphor of the glass (pool) half empty or full has a few of us smiling.  And our perceptions on life are very evident!

 

In an influence-based conversation, your self-perception makes a big difference. Do you think your audience won’t listen to you?  Do you think you don’t have enough credibility? Do you think you’re inept at speaking in public? Do you think when you meet someone influential it’s one shot takes all? Is your pool half empty?

The list of negative paradigms we can feel never ends. Most of them flare up full-force when you’re dealing with situations of influence.

Today’s exercise -Believe that for today, you are good enough, strong enough, smart enough. Take on that people want what you have to proffer. And give your ego (identity) the job of recognizing when you feel disconnected from this. Just notice.
Do not act or react.
And at bedtime, journal what you saw.

~*~

About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council and Co-Founder of the Global Influence Summit.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

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Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity

May 21, 2017 Leave a Comment

 

One of my favourite writings by Chris Cade…

A while back there was a discussion on Facebook and a person replied with the following comment:

“If you don’t kill the ego, you’re nowhere. Healing isn’t a pleasure cruise. It’s all about the ego or his real name, Satan!”

His comment reminded me of a pitfall that many people get into on the path of spiritual transformation: demonizing the ego. It’s easy to do. After all, we know the ego is the source of our suffering. We know it causes us pain.

So why not kill it? 

Just get it out of our heads forever so we can be totally healed, whole, and live in peace?

Many spiritual paths seek to either transcend the ego or to annihilate it. And while this approach may have worked for the founders of those paths and some devout followers, my experience and observation is that typically this results in more pain and ego… not less.

What do I recommend?

Explore the possibility of accepting and loving the ego instead of trying to kill or annihilate it.

That seems counter intuitive to many. Why love and accept the very thing we want to be free from?

The thing is, as long as a person is trying to kill or annihilate the ego then that person is living in a perpetual state of rejection – which *is* the very ego that person is trying to annihilate. With this frame of mind, it actually becomes impossible to ever free one’s self from the trappings of the ego.

Therefore, if a person truly deeply wants to be free from the ego, the first step is to always fully accept it.

Granted, we don’t have to identify with the ego. We don’t have to do what it says. And we certainly don’t have to even believe it.

But we do have to accept it…

Because the alternative is a lot like this quote from George Carlin:

“Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity.”

Or phrased in our current context…

The wish to kill or annihilate the ego is to be completely identified with the ego.

It just doesn’t work because it creates a never ending circle of unresolvable contradictions. It uses the wrong energy to try and solve the perceived problem.

And this downward-spiral identification makes it impossible to ever experience lasting and meaningful freedom from the ego.

~*~

Meditation is a great place to start. So if you haven’t listened to your free “Effortless Quiet Mind” meditation by Chris Cade yet, then click the link below:
Listen To Your Free “Effortless Quiet Mind” Meditation

Do you have the stuff legends are made of?

May 17, 2017 Leave a Comment

 

It was one of the best Olympic races ever witnessed. I excitedly phoned Vince, my brother-in-law and fellow 1500 m enthusiast, after seeing.  I knew he would get it.

The majority of 1500 m runners agree. The 2004 Olympic 1500 men’s race, where both Hicham El Guerrouj of Morocco and his peer and friend Bernard Legat of Kenya both crossed the finish line under the current world record.


Guerrouj was not predicted to win. Legat, the reigning Olympic gold-medal holder was heavily favored by the world’s media. 

Even though Guerrouj had 4 world titles, he had never won Olympic gold. Experts considered him to be on the way out, distracted by a new family at home and a sub-par year to that point.

He would prove them all wrong, including his competitor Legat. This race alone established Guerrouj as the greatest middle distance runner of all time. Guerrouj not only ran the first half of the race at record pace, but in the last half he accelerated constantly, running the remainder of the race in controlled 100 m bursts.

Raw courage and determination abound. Even at this blistering pace, in the blistering heat of Athens, he blasted each 100 m faster than the last.

When Guerrouj is asked about that race, his reply tells all: You don’t know what you are capable of, until you confront the opportunity.

Today’s action – Notice where you are prejudicing your own outcomes. And choose to improve, in controlled measured bursts.

Perhaps you are stuff that legends are made of…

~*~

About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council and Co-Founder of the Global Influence Summit.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

Follow @TeresaDee on Twitter

Like Teresa de Grosbois on Facebook

or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

The Advantage of Awkward

May 6, 2017 1 Comment

 

Life brings those brief moments you’d rather skip over:

You said the wrong words in the wrong moment.  Someone upset is being cruel to another person or acting in drama. Someone is saying something that doesn’t jive with your beliefs.

There are multiple incidences that bring out your angst. Your discomfort stems from your own internal debate, “Should I speak up? Is it my responsibility to address this?”

Never an easy decision to make. Just know that it’s these awkward moments that provide the best chances for breakthrough and relationship building; for all parties involved.

I like to say “discomfort is the doorway to breakthrough.” With personal relationship. With business. Everywhere in life. I’ve trained myself to see these moments. Especially when I’m speaking on stage. When my own anxiety is high, I know there is a growth opportunity present. The key lies in not ignoring it. In noticing it and embracing it and asking the golden question “what’s happening right now?”

Today’s assignment – notice whenever you or your companions are uncomfortable and ask “what’s happening right now?”

~*~

About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council and Co-Founder of the Global Influence Summit.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

Follow @TeresaDee on Twitter

Like Teresa de Grosbois on Facebook

or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

Are you a participant or an observer?

May 2, 2017 Leave a Comment

 

The Transformational journey is now a 12-billion dollar a year enterprise.

Yes, that’s $12,000,000,000 with 9 zeros.

Which says a plethora of people are spending their time and money learning how to greatly alter the way they think to improve their lives.

But knowledge is never enough.

No one loses any weight by just reading a diet book. I’ve gone to a holistic medical expert, and not followed the regimen prescribed.

Genuine change takes dedication and committed action.

Today’s Action – Identify one area you want to grow more influence- your list, Twitter, Facebook, etc. Choose an unfailing 2 minute each day routine you plan to do to grow your following there.

Start right now!  

~*~

About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council and Co-Founder of the Global Influence Summit.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

Follow @TeresaDee on Twitter

Like Teresa de Grosbois on Facebook

or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com