Archives for December 2016

Overwhelm and Influence

December 19, 2016 Leave a Comment

 

To breathe is something I have to remind myself of more than once a day.

Yes, I chose this life and love what I do.  I also have a tendency (like a lot of entrepreneurs) to say “yes” to too much.  That brings up overwhelm.

Ironic, I know. Many of you know I teach breathing as an analogy for influence. Breathing is the kind of skill that once you master it, you never have to think about it again.

Until you do.

It is in those moments of high stress when you forget to breathe that your influence is most at risk. Because your internal stress is taking you down. You’re telling yourself it’s too much, too hard, too fast, too whatever.

In those moments, your authenticity is at risk.  Your fear is now taking your focus back onto yourself and away from being of service to others. Appropriately so. And learning to navigate those moments powerfully feeds your ability to stay in an outwardly focused influence game.

Your takeaway: notice when you’re not breathing. Notice what you’re telling yourself in those moments.  Create an affirmation for yourself to move forward powerful, such as “I have enough time to get everything done” or “I am good at finding people to support me in my projects” or “I am good at doing hard things”

And breathe.

To your success,

Teresa

 

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on  Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

 

 

 

The #1 reason why competition can kill your success and influence

December 12, 2016 Leave a Comment

 

You may notice in that subject line that I did not say The #1 reason competition (or your competitors) can kill your success. I’m talking about the idea of competition itself.

Don’t get me wrong. There are lots of business tycoons that believe in “win at all costs”.  But with competition, there is a clear winner and a clear loser.  People of a competitive mindset tend to have to buy their influence with money.  Take away their money and much of their influence goes with it.  It’s not true mass influence. It’s the purchasing of power.

With a competitive philosophy other people clearly see you want others to lose in order for you to win. Only those “on your team” like and trust you. The trust of outsiders goes out the window, along with the reach of your influence.

Watch highly influential people who are influential regardless of their wealth status.  They share a common belief:  win-win or no deal.  It is a non-competitive mindset. It is founded on the principle that in every deal, we both have to walk away with our needs met, or we’re not a good fit to do business together.

Today’s exercise.

Look at where your mindset is competitive. Where are you trying to beat someone else?  Make a choice to find a way that you play the game together and both win.

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on  Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

 

 

 

The #1 reason you need to understand the real economy

December 3, 2016 Leave a Comment

 

entrepreneur-696972_640Before we had money, society functioned on an earlier exchange basis. Transactions happened in both goods and in relationships.

Influence both underlaid this first economy and grew from it. At a transactional level, you influenced someone to think your wine was a fair deal for their sheep. At a relationship level, you created alliances to increase your influence and power.

Alliances took many forms, from marriages to developing trade associations. The person who brokered the alliance gained as much influence as the parties in the alliance.

The challenge with that first economy is that, like any system, it required a certain amount of faith in others and faith in the system. Fairness became an issue. Transactions in the first economy were difficult to track and often difficult to see.

The creation of money allowed people to understand and see that first economy better.  Money was a place holder to show people the movement of value and relationships.  Money became like the dye in the liquid that allowed people to see and account for their transactions.

Here’s the key. Money did not replace that first economy. It only made it visible. Money simplified how that first economy worked. But it did not replace it. That first economy is still running on this planet and those who master it become the influential and powerful.

Both economies are based on transactions. The same way “go fish” and “bridge” are both card games, one is just easier to play. Money was a simplification of the game to allow everyone to play.

The first economy is based mostly on relationship transactions – it is an economy of influence. Those who master the first economy know that scorekeeping is as unnecessary as accounting for your breath.  Count your breath for a while. It’s tedious.

There’s no shortage of air to breath. It’s all around us. Your capacity to use it is all that’s in debate.

Influence is like air.  It’s all around you and abundant in supply.  You need only the ability to see and utilize it.

The basic transaction of this first economy is to give influence to another.  When you trust someone, you can do transactions with them and build a relationship. So the giving of influence is an act of giving trust. Endorsing or praising others who deserve it is the foundation of this transaction. This enables all other transactions to take place.

Today’s tip: Start noticing influence like it was the air you breath. It’s the first step in understanding the first economy.

P.S. If you want to learn to build your muscle at this first economy, take the 30-day Influence Challenge www.MassInfluenceTheBook.com

 

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.


If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on  Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com