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Did you mess up? Or was this courage?

August 4, 2016 1 Comment


ballet-545323_640It was so fun to watch her on stage. My 16-year-old daughter was a beautiful dancer after years of training. So the look of dismay on her face was unmistakable to a mother. It came in a heartbeat and was gone. But no mother could have missed it.  It had followed a moment of her dancing in highlight from the group. Her dancing was elegant and beautiful, so I wondered what was wrong.

“I was covering for a spacing issue” she told me later in the car.  “Someone else was in the wrong place, and I had to change the moves to cover it. I didn’t know what else to do.”

It was such powerful mirror for me.  How often had I walked off stage after speaking thinking of the point I’d forgotten to say or the sequence I’d messed up, only to realize the mistake was invisible to the audience.  It was only my embarrassment at it that might be visible – if I choose to make it so.

Are you getting stuck in your mistakes? Or are you courageously moving forward?

Self-forgiveness is a key to influence. Without it, we draw others into focusing on our mistakes, rather than moving forward. Taking accountability for your mistake does not require public admission and scrutiny. Putting a smile on your face and moving forward can be an outward act of generosity, that you value other’s experience of the situation more than your own need to address the mistake.

Sometimes the most courageous act is to keep dancing.


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