Archives for July 2016

2 reasons why overwhelm is killing your influence.

July 29, 2016 Leave a Comment

 

 

town-sign-1148092_640Overwhelm.

It happens to everyone, myself included. Especially business leaders and business owners. We all know the first reason why overwhelm kills your success. If you’re not getting things done, success is elusive.

Overwhelm is also an influence killer.

When your do-list gets so long that you stop seeing the person in front of you. You only see the need to get that task checked off your to do list. Your influence is likely dead.

Emotional energy is palpable, not only through facial expressions and body language. Research shows that over 35% of the population (the more kinesthetic crowd) can also read emotional energy in the absence of other senses.

Bottom line, your overwhelm is affecting the way you land with others and so is their trust in you.

Today’s exercise:

Look at what’s causing you the most overwhelm on your to-do list and hand over or get some help from others.

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of   Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.

If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

 

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

 

Channelling your inner elder – 1 distinction between a good speaker and a great speaker

July 25, 2016 Leave a Comment

microphone-704255_640Annie, stood on stage facilitating. Courageous. It was a big audience with influential peers. She looked confident but at the same time wooden. A bit too “put on”.  A bit too forceful. No one could fault her performance nor would anyone really praise it. It was simply good. Not exceptional.

In the influence game, understanding the difference between good and exceptional can be subtle. The distinction lies in authenticity. I define authenticity as whether your inner voice is saying the same thing as your outer voice.

Many speakers make the mistake of thinking they’re putting on a role when they step on stage.  Or they’re “channelling” another really great speaker, such as Gandhi or Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

While these techniques are not “wrong” it’s not authentic and highly effective. It results in the kind of wooden, too forceful, put-on kind of speech that one might consider “good” but not “exceptional”.

The best thing you can do for your own influence is to be yourself, 100%. Don’t act the way you think others want you to act, don’t channel someone else. Channel you.

And if you absolutely need to channel someone, channel your inner elder. A wiser, more adept version of yourself from the future.

The difference is always memorable.

2 keys to remember:

1.   Put all your focus on serving your audience. Anything going on with you, fear, back pain, an itchy nose, can be parked for later.

2.     If you need to channel someone, make it an older, wiser, awesome version of yourself.

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.

 

If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

 

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

 

The missing link between learning and training

July 22, 2016 Leave a Comment

Pop Quiz

When was the last time you:

a.  Bought the diet book, and ate you usual foods,success-784357_640

b.  Planned to rise early and still hit snooze,

c.  Took the course… but I didn’t follow through?

 

I struggle with as many of these things as the next person.

Learning about something almost never causes change. Insight and action are not the same thing. True change comes from action, not thought.

Transformation comes from new habits, from acting before you learn, acting in order to learn.  Experiencing the inevitable discomfort of being willing to fail, is the first step.

Today’s exercise.

Pick one new habit you are committed to creating and act on it. Not in 5 minutes. Now. Pick one tangible action and (as Nike would say) “just do it”.

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.

 

If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

 

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

 

 

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve given in the past 24 hours?

July 20, 2016 Leave a Comment

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Deborah Cooper-lall is not only a dentist, but she teaches the principles of good dentistry and is a leader in her field (www.iqdental.com). Sitting at a CAPS luncheon yesterday she asked me “I’d like to blog more, but how do you decide what you should blog about on any given day?

“That’s easy” I replied. “If I’m stumped when I sit down to blog, I just think about what the best advice I gave someone in the past 24 hours was.” Then I blog about that.

So I’m realizing this morning, that that’s the best piece of advice I’ve given anyone in the past 24 hours.

So what’s the best piece of advice you’ve given anyone in the past 24 hours? Would love to have you post it here and link back to your blog. Just for fun?

 

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.

If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

 

Follow Teresa on TwitterLike on Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

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The simple yet profound way to gain influence

July 18, 2016 Leave a Comment

 

smiling-woman-1340662_640A couple of months ago, while in-line  waiting for my coffee, a man who is upset about his drink approached the barista. She graciously thanked him for the feedback, smiled and re-made his latte.

I can’t help myself but to comment on her great attitude saying, “I love how you smiled through all of that.”

“It makes everything easier.”  She replied.

Simple, yet profound.

This is going to sound cliche, but I’m going to say it anyway. Smiling makes you money.  Smiling builds relationships. Smiling gains you influence.

Today’s exercise.

Smile at everyone you meet even if you don’t mean it. That may fly in the face of authenticity at first. But notice what happens when they smile back. Your emotions may shift. Everything may become easier.

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of  Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.

 

If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

 

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

 

 

 

 

3 key elements to powerful asking

July 16, 2016 Leave a Comment

 

Joan was struggling to take her business to the next level. She was still holding down a part time job to cover her expenses. Here she sat at a women’s business networking function with 6 other women business owners looking at her waiting to offer her support in whatever she needed. What she really needed was word of mouth about her fledgling consulting business. She needed clients. But somehow she didn’t want to admit she was struggling. So when her turn came up to make an ask, she paused for several seconds, shaking slightly.  Then she asked if anyone knew a good mechanic to fix her car.

lego-884903_640My turn came next.  I asked for help generating word of mouth for an upcoming workshop I was hosting.  I admitted I needed help – the new event title I was trying was not catching. These were powerhouse women, most of whom I was in strong relationship with. Everyone willingly offered support to post it to their social media. Some even offered to personally contact and invite people. Penny approached me later and admitted she had been afraid to make a request similar to mine.

Here’s that Joan missed, when good people are ready and willing to help you and you deny them the opportunity, you are, in fact, insulting them at a very subtle way.  There’s an underlying message in your communication that says “You don’t want to help me.”  You have missed the gift they are offering. When you don’t show discernment between those who would judge you and those you would help you, you are stopping some powerful relationships from being built.

Influence is not something you can buy or take for yourself. You can only ever give influence to others. And they can give it back to you. Influence requires you develop trusting relationships with worthy people where you support each other in growing your influence.

Three key steps:

1. Choose people you resonate with to play with. You want trusted people who get how to powerfully be in relationship with others.

2. Offer support first. It builds trust. The best offer of support you can ever make is to publicly celebrate someone else’s strengths or work;

3. When others offer support say “hell yes”.  You can actually insult them otherwise.  And make your asks for support something they can do in less than a minute.  Otherwise you’re a big energy drain.

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About the Author

Teresa de Grosbois is the #1 International Bestselling author of Mass Influence, 4X Best selling author, International Speaker and the Founder of the Evolutionary Business Council.

 

If you’d like to learn how to increase your influence, click here to download your complimentary digital copy of the #1 International Bestseller Mass Influence

Teresa’s passionate goal is to have transformational principles touch the lives of 1.2 Billion people by 2020, by growing 1200 thought-leaders.

 

Follow Teresa on Twitter, Like on Facebook or Email at Teresa@WildfireWS.com

The article has been repurposed.