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BALANCE: Your Best Defense Against Stress!

February 15, 2014 Leave a Comment

Satya-KalraArticle By Satya Kalra
Balance: Your Best Defense Against Stress!

Stress is like a rubber band stretched to its limit. Unless the pressure lets up, it’ll snap. The Harvard School of Public Health says, “Serious, sustained stress… adds up to ‘wear and tear’ and, eventually, illnesses such as heart disease, stroke, and diabetes.” Release that rubber band… by restoring balance to your life.

Some stress is actually helpful: it motivates and energizes us. But when stress is imbalanced, our problems begin. Many of us are ashamed to feel stress. Steve says, “Stress leave is career suicide in my field. We’re all so replaceable, so you just suck it up and try to hide the stress.”

Imagine two people carrying a heavy weight on a pole between them. If the weight slides clos-er to one person, her burden gets heavier! But if she pushes away the weight, suddenly the burden is shared and becomes much easier to carry. That’s balance: learning how to push away unwanted stresses so you can carry life’s burdens without breaking.

There are three basic root causes of all stress: fear, worry and doubt. Whether it’s an overdue proposal at work, a big check clearing your bank account, a child who’s staying out later and later or even “fun” pressures, like a dinner party for a group of friends.

You don’t have to drop your load, just balance it. When things get unbalanced, stress gets overwhelming.

As Lord Krishna says, “Yoga is not possible for one who eats too much or eats too little, who sleeps too much or sleeps too little, O Arjuna.” (Gita. 6.16)

Let’s push everything back into balance, turning the tables and controlling the stress rather than letting it control you! The word BALANCE keeps us focused on our goal:

• Be calm – you can handle this and get through it!
• Always tell the truth. Don’t play games; don’t lie.
• Leave those molehills alone; don’t build them into mountains! Focus on solutions.
• Appetites – embrace a balanced diet and lifestyle; choose calm tunes, not loud clashy chaos. Quiet music lowers blood pressure and reduces cortisol, a stress hormone.
• N o – your new answer to material desires that lead you away from your goal of BAL-ANCE! Don’t try to control everything; learn to say no and let go.
• Communicate – be a good planner and communicator. Talk and listen: good relation-ships with friends and loved ones are important to any healthy lifestyle.
• E scape; take a vacation, or just a short walk in nature. Or escape through yoga, pra-nayam (breathing) exercises, meditation and prayers.

Some people claim they love stress and thrive on it. “I’m just one of these people who works well under pressure,” says Ed. Physiologically, this is impossible! Even if Ed doesn’t notice it, the damage is real: stressed bodies secrete toxins, which weaken the immune system and cause all type of immune deficiency diseases including cancer. We gain or lose unhealthy quantities of weight. We suffer high blood pressure or heart problems without realizing it, or from ulcers or digestive distress.

Stress can make you lose it all: happiness, health, wealth and peace of mind!

With these three quick steps – try them at work! – you can release stress instantly, restoring balance in any situation:

1. Take deep breaths. Hold them as long as you can (15 to 45 seconds), then slowly breathe out. Repeat up to three times.
2. Be silent for few minutes. Sit down for few minutes if possible.
3. Drink a glass of room-temperature water.

Lainey is a mom who’s learned the secret of balance and recently switched to a lower-paying job. “I’d rather live frugally and keep my health – and spend time with my kids – as opposed to making more money and getting sick.” A balanced lifestyle is mandatory for stress-free and worry-free life, and everlasting happiness and peace.

If you keep the balance in your daily activities your entire life will be balanced. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”

Prayer releases endorphins and increases the threshold of calmness in the body.When you re-balance your load in life, affirmations like “I am relaxed” or “I am calm” will start to come true as the benefits of inner peace flow towards you.

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MEDITATION SCRIPT:

If you have a few more minutes (that really is all it takes!), this longer meditation will help you get through particularly stressful times in your life.

1. Choose a clean, quiet place. Sit comfortably, still and straight. Make sure your back, spine, chest, neck, and head are straight and aligned (a 3-inch-thick pillow under the hips helps keep back and spine straight).

2. Close your eyes gently.

3. Breathing Technique: Breath is a source of prana energy (source of life). The speed of our breath is proportionate to the speed of our emotions. When our mind is calm, we breathe slowly, and vice versa.

Focus on both inhale and exhale breath:

• Breathe in deeply and exhale slowly – 3X (Awareness)
• Breathe in deeply, exhale slowly and mentally say, “Relax” – 3X (Relaxation)
• Breathe in deeply and hold for 10 seconds. Exhale slowly and mentally say, “Re-lax” – 3X (Relaxation)
• Breathe in deeply and hold for 20 seconds. Exhale slowly and mentally say, “Re-lax” – 3X (Relaxation – Stress Release)
• Breathe normally. Observe and follow your breath from your nostrils as it goes in and out (inhalation and exhalation). Do not manipulate the breath. Try saying “Relax” with every inhalation.

4. Feel and experience your muscles becoming loose and tension-free every time you say “Relax.”

5. Relax yourself completely, journeying from toe to head. Focus on your toes, then on each body part upwards, saying “Relax” when you reach each part of the body.

6. Feel every organ of your body, every part of your body (name the organs: legs, knees, thighs, hips, stomach, chest area, kidneys, liver, intestine, heart, lungs, pancreas, etc), every cell of your body, every DNA, Genes, nucleotides, ATCG is relaxed. Go deeper and deeper into every particle, atom, electron, proton, neutron, of your body and feel relax-ation. Feel that your entire body is relaxed energy.

7. Now that you are approaching a more and more relaxed state, add this affirmation. Say:

• I am relaxed.
• My muscles are relaxed.
• My body is relaxed.
• My mind is calm.

8. Observe the relaxation of the body, calmness of the mind. Continue to sit for 10 minutes or more savoring this relaxed, calm state.

9. Rub your hands and place them all over your head and body, focusing on any specific area that needs attention. Rest them on your eyes, and then, gently, open your eyes.

Satya Kalra is a former CEO from Biotech Industry and founder of Path to Anandam. She is a philanthropist, spiritual guide, self-transformational and happiness coach, meditation and self-healing expert, international speaker and 6 times bestseller author.
Over 35 years, Satya has been teaching how to attain eternal happiness and peace within and reach your unlimited potential by raising your conscious level.

She has coached and trained 1000s of people on radio stations, TV shows, universities, government agencies, organization and entrepreneurs, CEOs, managers and families.

Rhyme time – how to write a great Children’s book

February 11, 2014 2 Comments

Dillon requests the same book every night for 37 nights.

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“Are you sure you want this book” His mom says.

“Ye-ess!” he says annoyed that she would question.

Kids use repetition for mastery. So how we present a kids book is especially important. Some key concepts to keep in mind.

1. Rhyme is phonics. Kids are learning the sounds based on certain words rhyming. Anything longer than 2 syllables is a challenge for kids. So choose the impact word in the rhyme to be one syllable wherever you can. This may take some re-working of your sentences. Dr. Seuss re-worked The Cat in the Hat for 9 months before submitting it. Having words that are within kids sphere of mastery is critical.

2. Mind the beat. Kids love cadence. So a good kids book should have a natural up and down rhythm to it. Reworking your sentences until the beat works. This is another reason you may have to ditch multi-syllabic words. The longer the word, the more likely that is said differently in different parts of the word. So the emphasis and beat will change depending on who’s reading it. Single syllable words are said with the same rhythm almost everywhere.

3. End with the impact sentence. People have a tendency to write what they want to say then figure out something that rhymes with it and create that as sentence 2 in any stanza. They has the effect of creating anti-climactic writing. The rhythm becomes important – not important, important – not important. Flip your stanzas after you write them. Start with the less important phrase and end with the phrase that has greater importance. That way each sanza will build to a point of impact. It feels better to the reader and keeps them going.

 

Becoming a classic – the secret to influence through time and space

February 1, 2014 14 Comments

Ever considered why a book or any work has staying power?

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A classic book is one that out-lasts time. So it not only spreads in space through word of mouth epidemic at a specific point in time, it also spreads forward into the future.

For this to happen it has some key elements that make it meaningful, regardless of the century in which it is read.

Some key things to think about:

Relevance – Classic books are highly relevant to any period.  30 years into the future, people must still understand what you were talking about.  Humor or discourse that is only relevant to the period, can stop e a books from becoming a classic.

Morality – Classic books typically have  a profound moral lesson. A simple one relevant to all time has the best staying power. Issues that have staying power are typically aligned with fundamental human rights – freedom, self expression, happiness etc.

Quality – Classic books are well written. They hook the reader and keep them hooked.

Credibility – Does your reader believe what you’ve written. Or in the case of fantasy of science fiction, have you succeeded in having them suspend their disbelief? A book must be well enough researched that readers do not get annoyed with implausible fact and situations.