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Understanding rights permissions – by Jane Friedman

December 15, 2013 Leave a Comment

One of the best articles I’ve seen on rights permissions for writing – by Jane Friedman

Don’t Stress Out This Holiday Season

December 11, 2013 Leave a Comment

By Satya Kalra

9 – Proven Holiday Stress-Busters!

Don’t stress out this holiday season – reach out!

Satya-KalraDoes your stomach tighten when you think about the holidays? Stressed out? Worried about getting into arguments, not meeting others’ expectations, not picking the right gifts? The American Psychological Association says anxiety goes up during the holidays. Though holidays should be a fun time, they bring lots of stress and sometimes dishearten us, weakening our relationships.

Wonder why this season brings stress and headaches instead of a glow of excitement?

Think about how most of us prepare. We overspend energy and money on gifts and meals, argue over misunderstandings, and pack “fun” events into every minute, every day, every night.

No wonder it’s not fun anymore!

Peek inside the word “holiday.” It means “holy day,” but holy days should be about building stronger relationships, sharing and loving. So many times, they end up just being a hassle.

All those flashy ads: best gifts, best prices, best deals! They’re about body and mind, not the soul to soul connections we need most now. “The hype and commercialism of the season causes increased stress,” says a recent psychological report. Holy days should be about strengthening relationships, sharing and loving.

Sure, there are hassles: the cousin who hosts everybody, then fumes because nobody invites her back. The friends who share nasty gossip. The relative who drinks too much and picks a fight, leaving everyone wondering whether they should bother coming next year.

Why bother?

If that’s how you feel, just adjust your own outlook. Make this season different so you can finally enjoy and even have fun! Enjoy it like a kid again, with all the blessings of family and love.

Make the holidays a time of soul-to-soul connection. Meet others without expectations (“I chose him a great present and all he got me was this cheesy gift card!”) and the holidays will surpass your dreams. Open your heart and exchange the gifts of love, sharing and caring, with these nine easy tips to renew your holiday spirit today!

1. Find out who needs help. If you are comfortable and well-fed, visit seniors, visit hospitals or give out socks to homeless folks. Don’t forget your cousin in the army, or that neighbor down the street who lost his wife last year!

2. Reconnect with friends. Think of someone you haven’t seen in a while and have tea together. If you live too far away, look them up on Skype and say hello.

3. Avoid hot button topics. Try not to bring up sensitive issues… keep it light and fun.

4. Remember the kids. Many organizations arrange Santa visits, plays or concerts to make Christmas in the hospital a happier time for kids.

5. Plan a field trip. Buy treats your own children can give out in a seniors’ residence or to adults with disabilities. Tell them people who seem different deserve a wonderful holiday too.

6. Discover your own style. Just because your sister-in-law hosts a slick New Year’s buffet brunch doesn’t mean that’s your thing. No MIMICKING what works for others! Your style may be a potluck lunch instead. Just make it your own!

7. Take care of you and Relax. Your body won’t thank you for rich, indulgent party food. Too rushed to cook and eat properly? Find simple foods to prepare easily and truly nourish your spirit. Go for a walk, practice yoga if you’re up to it. Sit quietly and relax, without distractions: put away your phone, mp3 player, remote control, notepad…

8. Make that call. There’s one person out there you feel you can’t call. Maybe you lost touch because her husband was sick. Maybe he’s fighting with a friend of yours and you didn’t want to take sides. Mend those fences, and you’ll heal yourself, too.

9. Do your best, then let go. Despite your best intentions, life will throw you a curveball. Unexpected health surprise? Cash crisis? Don’t let them undermine all the work you’ve done. Take a deep breath, refocus, and keep trying.

Finally, a word about forgiveness. Hearts are soft at this time of year; we are ready, willing and able to forgive. Forgive yourself first, and let go of grudges. Ask others for forgiveness. What an amazing gift: “I think I hurt your feelings; I’m sorry.” Only a grinch would say no to a chance to reconnect on a soul-to-soul level.

Always thank God for blessings before you, release your burdens, and offer the world the gift of your renewed spirit, with love and laughter and lightness to last through 2014 and beyond. Let us pray together for this coming holiday season:

Let us reach out beyond ourselves.

Let us bring light to the world

By being light in the world.

Let us serve others with joy

Let us reach out with joy

Surrender expectations

And feel only wonder

Surround ourselves with love

By spreading love in the world

Changing only ourselves

We can change the world.

“Love and Light to All”

By: Satya Kalra

Epic fear mastery – epic splits

December 9, 2013 19 Comments


One of the most-viewed videos on YouTube lately has been the Volvo commercial of Jean Claude Van Damme doing the splits off the mirrors of two trucks driving in reverse. If you haven’t seen the video, it’s worth the watch.

Whether you’re a Van Damme fan aside, it is easy to see why the video is spreading at pandemic rates.     Staring ahead with a steely gaze it is not the physical feat that Van Damme accomplishes that is truly inspiring, it is the fear mastery.   It is clear beyond doubt that his life is in the hands of two drivers and the precision of Volvo’s steering.  Big stakes, inspire big word of mouth.


Who gave the influence to Rosa Parks?

December 2, 2013 31 Comments

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“All I was doing was trying to get home from work.” One of the more famous statements of Rosa Parks when speaking about the December incident in 1955, Montgomery Alabama where she was arrested and put on trial for refusing to move to the back of the bus.

Rosa Parks case became the rally point of the Montgomery Bus Boycott, which became the focal point of the civil rights movement in the US.  A then relatively unknown Baptist minister rallied the movement to the level of global significance.

What makes a 28 year old fresh out of bible college a global icon?  That’s how old Martin Luther King Jr. was when he became globally influential.

There were several factors in that recipe. Not the least of which were purpose, and passion.

But let’s not overlook the obvious. Martin Luther King Jr. gave influence to Rosa Parks. It’s a fundamental principle of influence.

Just like if you want respect, you give respect.  If you want influence, you give influence.

More importantly, you give influence to someone who’s truly congruent with who you are, so you can authentically talk about your respect for them.

Leaders of the civil rights movement in Montgomery  had looked at a similar case 8 months prior.  In March 1955, a fifteen-year-old school girl in Montgomery, Claudette Colvin, refused to give up her bus seat. King was on the committee from the Birmingham African-American community that looked into the case.  Colvin was pregnant and unmarried, so E.D. Nixon and Clifford Durr decided to wait for a better case to get behind.

One of the most important acts King did that led to his global stature, was to be Rosa Parks’ first raving fan.  He showed her leadership and courage to the world and credited her with the leader she became in the civil rights movement.  From that act, King’s leadership and courage emerged.

Choose who you give influence to and give it abundantly. It will define you as an influencer.