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How To Stay Positive in Challenging Times

January 31, 2013 Leave a Comment

By: Pragito Dove

Are you having trouble staying in a positive state of mind when challenging circumstances present themselves? The universal laws state: So without, so within. Everything is a mirror. We cannot change the reflection, but we can change the original (ourselves), and then, automatically, the reflection changes.

Here are my top five keys that can help you cultivate not only a positive mindset, but also the feeling state necessary for the positive law of attraction. The more you focus on bringing awareness to accepting and loving yourself, the more your inner beauty and harmony are reflected in your outer circumstances.

1. Relax and Accept
Relax and accept the challenging situation. Don’t fight it, because that will make it worse. The more relaxed you are, the more productive you are. Creativity arises out of a relaxed state. And it’s creativity that you need to come up with solutions to the situation you are in. Notice that I use the word “situation” and not the word “problem.” There is no such thing as a problem, only a situation. When you shift your perspective and see the situation as it is, without negative commentary, then you come up with creative solutions, and/or you find the right person to help you.

2. Watch the Mind
Make a practice of watching the thoughts of the mind with non-judgment and compassion for yourself. It is not the thoughts that are the problem, it is our identification with them that creates stress and anxiety.

For five minutes a day, sit with eyes closed, body relaxed, and observe the thoughts of the mind. You don’t have to censor them, or force them to be other than they are, simply observe with non-judgment, and let them pass by.

Over time, you become less identified with the thoughts, and more connected to your creativity, wisdom and clarity.

3. Create Positive Thoughts
A powerful way to undermine the influence of negative thoughts on your wellbeing is to create a practice of saying positive thoughts to yourself. At the beginning, these might seem tedious or silly, but, believe me, it works! The easiest way to break a bad habit of self-judgment and criticism is to create positive phrases that you repeat to yourself as often as possible. Even if you don’t really believe them in the beginning, say them anyway! Over time, they become a habit and the negative thoughts simply dissolve.

4. Surround Yourself With Positive People
Be alert to people who like to complain, bad-mouth others, and/or have a depressed outlook on life. Avoid them. Keep yourself in the company of positive thinking people. This is a powerful way to keep yourself in a positive energy field that will lift you rather than bring you down. Your life is not determined by outside circumstances, but rather by how you respond to those outside circumstances.

Remember that all things are possible, there is a lot going on that is unseen to you.

The more you keep yourself on a positive vibrational level, the greater your chances of having positive outcomes to challenging situations.

5. Be Grateful, Laugh, Celebrate
Be grateful for what you have. If things are really bad, be grateful for being able to breathe, get out of bed in the morning, use your legs. Be grateful for the sunrise and sunset, for the beauty of the sky, the trees, the birds and flowers. There is always something to be grateful for. Put your focus there and celebrate what you have. Laughter is a powerful attractor factor. Seek out ways to bring more laughter into your life. You will be amazed at the miracles that occur.

Meditation: Befriending the Mind

When you befriend the mind you are surprised how radically life can change. It becomes much easier to disidentify from the mind’s constant chattering and see yourself, and life’s situations, with more clarity and objectivity. You see life’s dramas with perspective and compassion, and insights and understandings arise naturally.

Find ways to befriend your mind. The mind is our bridge from the subconscious to the conscious, our gateway of expression to the outer world. Be grateful for it. Find ways to appreciate the insights, understandings, and creativity it brings. See it not as an enemy but as a friend.

As this friendship with the mind deepens, your mind no longer disturbs you. You are not fighting it; you are simply letting it’s thoughts pass by.The mind and the ego want to make it complicated, but it is not. Life sings a different tune when you are not controlled by the mind. Your natural joy, spontaneity, self-acceptance, love and compassion arise quickly and easily.

For Pragito’s latest book, Laughter, Tears, Silence, guided meditation CDs, and to join her Laughing Buddhas Network community (it’s FREE!) check in at her website

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How well do you know the rules of the Influence Game?

January 21, 2013 Leave a Comment


Pop Quiz!

You’re at a networking event and you want to meet the speaker on the stage.  You know they could really help you generate and you know this could be your one big chance!  You:

a)    Pray to the Universe that they’ll notice you and be inspired to reach out

b) Run to the stage before they go to the washroom and ask them to endorse you on LinkedIn

c) Ask the host to introduce you so you can interview them on your teleseminar series.


One of the biggest mistakes I see people making when they play the influence game is what I’d affectionately call “The premature ask”.  It’s the equivalent of when you move into a new house having the neighbor come by and ask to borrow your lawn mower.  Bringing by a lasagna would have been so much easier to take.

A lot of people get into desperation when they’re first wanting to meet someone who is important to this.  Shawne Duperon talks about this a great deal in her work (  The desperation feels like a weight to the person we’re wanting to relationship with.


Three tips when meeting an influencer:

1.  Remember there’s no rush.

You’re wanting relationship, not a one-shot deal.  Depending on how influential they are, it may take some time of you being of assistance before they offer back.   That’s normal and to be expected.

2.  Always offer first.

Offer an influencer something that will benefit them.  You want to feel like a support, not a weight to them in order to get past their boundaries and have them want to stay in connection.

3.  Offer them influence.

Influencers love influence, so anything that will assist them in reaching more people will do (e.g. an interview, recognition on your social media, connection to other influencers)