Archives for October 2009

For my Calgary friends, a life-changing workshop!

October 20, 2009 1 Comment
My dear friend and mentor Scott Gullion is giving back to Calgary tomorrow.  Scott’s teachings have had a huge impact on my life, so I’m excited to invite you to be a guest at his workshop.

Discover the Essence of Change.

Scott has  spent years studying the essence of change working with the seminar industry designing and developing programs.
Then checking the the long term results and refining them …..
after working with hundreds of other trainers and thousands of participants around the world,
He’s finally willing to share Discover the Essence of Change in Calgary
Varsity Community Center
4303 Varsity Drive N.W
–Wednesday October 21’st 2009.
–registration and doors open at 6:30
Discover the Essence of Change 7 pm till 9 pm.
It’s free so come on out and bring a friend (or six)

If you have a small business, read this now!

October 8, 2009 Leave a Comment

So many small businesses miss the mark when it comes to the marketing which is no surprise when you consider their tight budgets. You might want to check out this amazing promotion by Strategies for Success. Cidnee specializes in small businesses and is even helping out those that can’t afford marketing at all! Enter this code 2010A7 if you register and you will also be entered into a draw for a very cool social media workshop and company video production taking place in late November (value $1000) or a 1/2 day one-on-one consultation with Cidnee (value $1000). Cidnee Stephen Ph: (403) 212-0099 P.S. Do you know the 7 Steps to Your Marketing Success? Download them now for FREE

Words as Weapons! Making your feedback more supportive.

October 6, 2009 Leave a Comment

Feedback is an interesting thing.  You’ve probably been taught to use “I language” when giving feedback.  It’s true, the most generous thing you can do in giving feedback is be selfish and make it all about the impact to you.

“I feel frustrated by what you just did” is far more easy for the person you’re speaking to to hear than “You’re just so frustrating!”.

But here’s the trap most people fall into.    There are a lot of accusational words in the English language.  It’s easy to cleverly disguise feedback as being personal and use accusational language.  “I feel undermined by you” carries an accusation in the word “undermined” that “you meant to undermine me”.

True feeling words are words like “frustrated, happy, sad, lonely, etc”.     If you catch yourself using the phrase “by you” or you’re using a word that carries accusation in it, such as “disrespected”  or “mistreated”,  than back up and try again.  Your more supportive language will ensure your feedback gets heard.